I spoke to a friend yesterday who used to be Catholic. She left the Church quite some time ago, angry with God because of her abusive family situation. She's now married with children and although she had her first two baptised in a Catholic church she has had her third baptised in the local C of E.
Now in her area there is hardly anything resembling a Catholic church. Mass is said in a community hall with a visiting priest. Yes the UK is that bad in areas.
She now attends the service at her local C of E when she likes. She and her children have been made very welcome by the vicar who is good with families and children. She does not make friends easily and has in the past been left to cope with very difficult circumstances.
She feels at home with her local C of E church because it meets her personal needs.
Okay I realise this is a naff reason to attend any church. But many people who are wounded can't think beyond the 'MY NEEDS' thing.
She noted that the vicar came to her home for baptism prep and the priest wouldn't. He expected all the parents to go to him on a set evening at a set time and seemed unable to understand she had a toddler and a husband who worked away.
Now I can't see Catholic priests having the time to visit every family with a baby for baptism prep. She couldn't see why but she lives in a village not a city with say 15/1600 families in a parish with ONE priest. The minister round the corner from us has about ten families and no young children- see the difference?
Nevertheless I think little is done to help families with young children bring them to the Sacraments.
Part of my 'dream' I think would be that there would be outreach from parishes that includes priests and deacons. Frankly people want to see a dogcollar. I know when I was ill and vulnerable I needed a priest and an EMHC just would not have cut it.
I think as the new orders grow the broken and wounded will be reached-but in the meantime, people like my friend will go where they get attention, rather than where there is Christ.